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Nobody Wants to Talk About It

Suicide prevention and mental health advocate Thomas Telfer is sharing his story and raising awareness in his community

Thomas Telfer walking with bag on shoulder

Thomas Telfer’s first encounter with mental illness occurred when he was a young lawyer. Not long after he had been called to the Bar, he approached his family doctor and tried to explain that he was not “feeling well” but couldn’t put his finger on what could possibly be wrong.

After the consultation, his doctor concluded that he was likely dealing with depression and recommended medication. Thomas recalls leaving abruptly, announcing that it wasn’t true.

“I was in complete denial,” says Thomas. “I felt guilt and shame and associated mental illness with weakness. Unfortunately at the time, I believed society’s messages about it.”

For Thomas, his first depressive episode did not last long. Years later, as a Professor at Western University, his depression returned in a more severe way. Thomas continued to believe the stigmatizing messages about mental illness, even when he was first admitted to a psychiatric hospital. “I told my wife that no one could know and I didn’t want any visitors,” says Thomas.

He was terrified that people at work would find out. Despite his efforts, a good friend tracked Thomas down, and went to see him in hospital. His friend told Thomas that although he hadn’t experienced mental illness personally, he understood that mental illness was not something you get over by trying harder.

When Thomas was hospitalized for depression recently, his attitude towards mental illness changed. He invited work colleagues to come and visit him in hospital. Now back at work, his recovery has been assisted by the tremendous support from family, friends and his Western colleagues.




Thomas is among a group of people who share their experience in the Zero Suicide Initiative video.


Thomas is a survivor of two suicide attempts. Nowadays he no longer wishes to hide from the stigma and would rather share his story openly to help others.

He uses his platform as a Professor to share his story and to give his students hope. Recently, he shared his story to group of London lawyers. “It’s one thing to share with people that you have struggled with depression, but quite another thing to say that you have attempted to end your life,” says Thomas. 

His current family doctor was the first to share information about the Zero Suicide Initiative, which will be rolling out in phases across St. Joseph’s. The initiative will begin at Parkwood Institute’s Mental Health Care Building in the Adult Ambulatory Mental Health Care Program.

“Zero Suicide is exactly the starting point we need for a discussion about suicide,” says Thomas. “It’s putting proper support in place for people who are struggling, and to provide them with the help and protection they so desperately need.”

He’s also joined the Zero Suicide Implementation Advisory Committee, as well as one of the Committee’s Working Groups, in order to support it from an outpatient perspective.

Katerina Barton is St. Joseph’s Project Lead for Zero Suicide and its implementation committee. She says that the purpose of the Zero Suicide Implementation Advisory Committee is to promote engagement between senior leadership, administrative staff, front line mental health care workers, and patients and families.

“The patient and families' perspectives are vital to the project,” says Katerina. “They will help inform some very important decisions about the implementation and policies being developed."

“I hope to make a difference by sharing my experience and participating in the Zero Suicide Initiative,” says Thomas.

A Message from Thomas about this story's title: Nobody Wants to Talk About It

Thomas Telfer sits on a bench holding up sign with song lyrics

While living in New Zealand, I became familiar with the music of Crowded House. The band disbanded in 1996. Paul Hester, who had been the drummer, died by suicide in 2005 after a battle with depression.

After the band reunited in 2007, Crowded House released a new album, Time on Earth and the first song on the album is entitled, “Nobody Wants To”. In the photo I am holding up the first three lines of the song:

Nobody wants to think about it
Nobody wants to talk about it
Nobody protects you

Although there is no direct reference in the song to suicide it is clear that the songwriter is lamenting the fact that no one wants to talk about suicide or mental illness.

We can’t make mental health issues “go away, pretending that it’s all ok.” Society needs to have a frank discussion about suicide to make it easier for those who are experiencing mental illness and perhaps suicidal thoughts to come forward and receive the assistance and protection they need and deserve.

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